In the Oscar
nominated documentary, The Invisible War,
by Filmmaker Kirby Dick, Kori Cioca (U.S. Coast Guard), Jessica Hinves (U.S.
Air Force), Robin Lynne LaFayette (U.S. Air Force), Lt. Ariana Klay (U.S.
Marine Corps, Marine Barracks Washington), Trina McDonald, (U.S. Navy) Lt. Elle
Helmer (U.S. Marines Corp, Marine Barracks Washington), Hannah Sewell (U.S.
Navy) talk about their dream to join the United States military for many
different reasons: wanting to be the best they could be, wanting to be a part
of something bigger, wanting to see the world, or wanting to continue a long family
tradition of military, which for one woman, Lt. Elle Helmer, went all the way back
to the Revolutionary War. All of the women expressed noble reasons for serving
their country.
Kori Cioca said
she would have repeated basic training over and over because she just loved it.
Each woman echoed how much the experience of training meant to them: comaradie
is mentioned, challenge, discipline, professionalism, doing the job well, kudos
from officers, awards, leaderships positions, achieving great physical and
mental prowess, keeping up with the guys and working just as hard as they did,
all these accomplishments were exciting to the female recruits who looked
forward to their service with eagerness.
And then –
reality.
Stationed in
Alaska with ten men, Trina McDonald was the only woman. Trina was raped
repeatedly. She said she felt “like a piece of meat on a slab.” Kori Cioca was
raped by her so-called “superior.” Her jaw was so damaged in the attack that
now she cannot open her mouth to chew. She must eat only soft foods. She cannot
go outside in winter without her jaw seizing up in the cold. The other women have
similar stories. Hannah Sewell was a virgin before her attack. Her back was
injured during the rape and now she has trouble walking. Walking. Lee Le Teff (U.S.
Army) had a loaded gun put to her head. One woman (U.S. Army Medical Corps) contracted
two STD’s and became pregnant from her rape. Two were accused of adultery,
though neither woman was married – their rapists were. (This struck me as very
Victorian, reminding me of another film, The
Crimson Petal and The White, in which a governess is given her marching
papers for getting pregnant with her employer’s child.) In The Invisible War, only one man spoke of being raped, but more men are
raped in the military than women.
According to the film,
the estimated number of women who have been sexually assaulted in the
military is 500,000.
Soldiers might
expect to be raped by the enemy if captured during combat, but they do NOT
expect to be raped by their fellow soldiers, by their friends, by their
commanders - or by their dream.
Harsh reality –
The estimated
number is 500,000 - 80% do not report because of the extreme retaliation that comes with reporting.
Rapists are being
protected, not victims. A Steubenville Rape Culture prevails. Across every
branch of the military, victims are told to be quiet by military officials whom
they approach to help them prosecute the crimes against them. Commanders are
reluctant to report a rape in their section because they will be seen as unable
to command, and they will be reprimanded and fail to advance in their careers. Some
of the rapists mentioned in the film were decorated and promoted – let’s be
clear, not for rape, but for other wonderful, macho achievements, I’m sure.
Rape victims who wanted to report, meanwhile, were told that if they wished to
file a report, they could lose their rank. According to the film, “In units where sexual
harassment is tolerated, incidents of rape TRIPLE.”
In the film, Atty.
Susan Burke said. “What we hear again and again from soldiers who have been
raped is that as bad as it was being raped, what was as bad, if not worse, was
to receive professional retaliation in their chosen career, merely because they
were raped.”
In other words,
raped by their dream.
Brigadier General
Loree Sutton went on to say, “Losing even one soldier needlessly because of
military sexual trauma is one too many.” All of the women in the film said they
would never allow their daughters to join the military, and if that is the goal of the military to get
rid of women then why are the rapists also raping men?
Who do you want in
your military? Rapists? Or good soldiers? Aren’t we losing good soldiers when
men and women must leave the service because of injuries incurred during rape?
What happened to nobility? True nobility. Nobility of heart, mind and body.
Apparently,
rapists are also JOINING the armed forces. Again, according to The Invisible War, a recent Navy study
found that 15% of incoming recruits attempted or committed rape before entering
the military, twice the percentage of the equivalent civilian population.
Psychiatrist Brigadier General Loree Sutton (Ret. U.S. Army) said in the film,
“Particularly for a savvy perpetrator, to work within a relatively closed
system like the military, it becomes a prime target-rich environment for a
predator.” These rapists, when they leave the military, go on to commit rape in
our communities, because rape is a crime that is repeated until the rapist is
caught.
Who do you want in
your military? Are criminal rapists good soldiers?
According to The Invisible War, in 2011, the court
ruled rape to be an occupational hazard of military service. How about getting
rapists OUT OF THE MILITARY?
Does the U.S.
military considered rape victims to be weak? If rape victims are supposed to
suck it up, then why don’t male soldiers just suck up their erections in the
first place? If they have so little control, how can they call themselves
soldiers? If all that aggression is supposed to be perpetrated on the enemy, then,
why are they raping fellow soldiers? (Not that I agree with raping the enemy. I
don’t. I think it’s beneath us. Again, nobility.) Hence, the title of the film,
The Invisible War: we are at war with
ourselves. Conduct unbecoming.
What does a
soldier do if the military is his dream and he is raped by his dream? What does a soldier do when the country he
believes in rapes him? The men and women who told their stories in The Invisible War, now must pick up the
pieces of their lives and re-invent themselves. Men and women who were devoted
to serving their country in the armed services, now must find another way to
serve their country and the American ideals they still have. Many have, but
many are still so damaged physically and mentally that they are forced to
relive the nightmare before they can heal and go forward with their lives.
Cut to civilian life
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In a 2004 New York Magazine story, Naomi Wolf describes having been sexually propositioned by her Yale
thesis professor, Harold Bloom in 1983. Apparently, Bloom put his hand on her
thigh and told her that she was lovely. After Naomi threw up (Have you seen Harold Bloom?), he changed his tune
and told her, according to Wolf, that she was a “deeply troubled girl.” Naomi
was advised to get her degree and wait to expose him. She did. If she hadn’t
waited, perhaps she would have lost all that she had achieved in her field, and
been raped by her dream as well. Naomi said she finally had to come forward
because male entitlement at Yale still predominated the campus among
professors, who considered approaching female students to be a “perk” and among
the male students themselves, as in the “No Means Yes, Yes Means Anal” chant of
a certain Yale fraternity. Of course, an advance is not a rape, but it is if
your dream is held hostage.
Oh,
I know I’m being naïve. I know, for instance, that Marilyn Monroe was “passed around” and that “she understood this.” I know that the Catholic Church knew
forever about the child rapes and took them as a matter of course. Of course.
In the grand Roman tradition – Caligula’s uncle, who raised him, used to throw
little slave boys over the cliff when he was done with them. I’m sure none of
those slaves ever dreamt of being sex slaves, but what about all the altar boys
who once believed in something? All the Catholic children – and their parents
- who once believed their priest was the representative of God on earth?
Recently,
The Daily Beast reported a story on scandal at the Bolshoi Ballet. Ballerinas
were being coerced into having sex with some of the wealthy and powerful men of
Moscow and Paris. The Bolshoi story reminded me of Degas’ ballet dancers. When
Degas painted the hall of the new Paris Opera House, he was painting a
beautiful baroque hallway of chandeliers and sparkling gold scrollwork peopled
by men in evening dress and female ballet dancers (nicknamed “petit rats”), a
hall created for this sole purpose – for wealthy men to view the ballerinas and
choose from them.
L'Etoile
Edgar Degas (1878)
I
guess I’m naïve. I’m told that theaters will always depend on wealthy patrons
and that the rich will always be able to buy almost anything they want. The petit
rats in Degas’ time came from poor families who could not protect them. The
ballerinas of the Bolshoi who are coerced are usually chosen from the lower
ranks because they are the most vulnerable to losing their positions. Will
being able to dance superbly the life-demanding discipline of ballet ever be
enough? Ballerinas of the BOLSHOI raped
by their dream? Am I really being naïve? I guess so. I’m told that rich
“patrons” mean as much to the ballerinas, who cannot dance forever, as they do
to the theater. In fact, securing a rich patron can ensure a ballerina’s
success. I’m told the ballerinas brag about their expensive gifts. Sounds like
Stockholm Sydrome. When will dancing superbly be enough?
May 31, 2015 UPDATE: Something I, as a victim, have always wondered about, now answered by Director Amy Berg's film, "An Open Secret" - Hollywood's secret sexual abuse of child stars.
May 31, 2015 UPDATE: Something I, as a victim, have always wondered about, now answered by Director Amy Berg's film, "An Open Secret" - Hollywood's secret sexual abuse of child stars.
Recently, I saw the film Young Abe
Lincoln, which portrayed Lincoln's early years as a lawyer, and yes,
it was fictionalized. Sure, it was melodramatic and sentimental. I wasn’t in
the mood for a black and white oldie, but I found myself drawn in by the characters,
the nobility of them. Maybe I’m naïve. I’ve always been drawn to Lincoln’s
self-education, which I believe in and I have done. I’m drawn to the simplicity
of his life. How he was really very shy and quiet, but was encouraged all the
time by the needs of the community to get up and speak, to take a leadership
role. I found myself laughing outrageously in some places, and sobbing in
others. Particularly at the very end, when young Abe, reluctant once again to
take the mic, walked up to the podium and morphed into the statue of himself in
Washington. He’s still there.
What would you do
in his presence? Would you rape your fellow soldier? I’m pretty sure Lincoln could
have watched and appreciated a ballet without trying to get a little from the
exquisite ballerinas. I'm sure he could have enjoyed a TV show without fantasizing about the child star. Maybe I’m just naïve.
©Patricia Goodwin 2013
Patricia Goodwin is the author of When Two Women Die, about Marblehead legends and true crime and its sequel, Dreamwater, about the Salem witch trials and the vicious 11-year-old pirate Ned Low. Holy Days is her third novel, about the sexual, psychological seduction of Gloria Wisher and her subsequent transformation. Her newest poetry books are Telling Time By Apples, And Other Poems About Life On The Remnants of Olde Humphrey Farme, illustrated by the author, and Java Love: Poems of a Coffeehouse.
©Patricia Goodwin 2013
Patricia Goodwin is the author of When Two Women Die, about Marblehead legends and true crime and its sequel, Dreamwater, about the Salem witch trials and the vicious 11-year-old pirate Ned Low. Holy Days is her third novel, about the sexual, psychological seduction of Gloria Wisher and her subsequent transformation. Her newest poetry books are Telling Time By Apples, And Other Poems About Life On The Remnants of Olde Humphrey Farme, illustrated by the author, and Java Love: Poems of a Coffeehouse.